Life and Death, how nature teaches us how to heal.
From the time we are born, we are learning all about the circle of life. Mother nature is very obviously teaching us, and imprinting on us that all things come and go. We celebrate it on every occasion, without ever thinking of it. The circle of life is around us all the time, we witness it 12 months of the year, and we have landmarks for it, Spring, lambs and flowers. Summer abundance of vegetables and flowers, warm air and blue skies, happy faces and glowing skins full of life! Autumn ( fall) turning leaves and cooler shorter days. Warm clothes and reflective walks in nature. Winter nights and still cold air, and seasonal celebrations and again reflective times, of friends and family passed. Then New Years and forward thinking, making plans and looking ahead, can you see the pattern? Mother nature is teaching us that all things pass and all things come again. There is a great mystery to life that is written and documented better than I ever could, it is a mystery that we all want to understand, we as humans are complex thinkers, we like to solve things, we look for clues all the time, it is how our brains processes. The answers are there. Everyday, 365 we are been giving the clues and answers.
When a loved one passes. Our world is shattered, we are frightened at the loss, unable to understand that they are gone. Where are they, do they see us still? can they hear us weep and pray? This we will never know… this isn’t a comfort! I know, I know from experience myself. This is our Winter… our dark and cold place in our heads. Like winter these feeling pass, they don’t go but they lessen. Then we have moments of reflection, we smile and laugh and celebrate our memories once again.
However, where is our Spring? our Summer? surely if what I have written about Mother nature teaching us is true, then in the circle next comes spring, then summer..right? This is how our minds work, we need to make it right.. to have that pattern. This is where planting new life in memory of a loved one helps. It is a constant and visual reminder, that life goes on! the circle of life is whole. Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter, and again, and again…
Plant flowers or Trees in memory of you loved one. Celebrate that even if you can’t be sure, or you can not prove it, life still goes on.
This has helped me. I know it will help you too.